* Review of the best according to the editors of ecdfburma.org. About the selection criteria. This material is subjective, is not an advertisement and does not serve as a guide to the purchase. Before buying, you need to consult with a specialist.
Becoming a parent, each person faces many difficulties. The main one is raising a child. When there is nobody to ask for wise advice to decide how to act in a given situation, methods developed by experienced psychologists come to the rescue. We offer readers a selection of books that, according to the editors, deserve special attention, since they really teach how to understand your child and how to communicate with him correctly.
Our experts have prepared a rating that includes 13 of the best books on raising children of different ages.
Rating of the best books on parenting
|Nomination||a place||Name of product||price|
|Rating of the best books on parenting||1||From Diapers to First Dates, Debra Huffner||518 ₽|
|2||“How Children Succeed,” Paul Tuff||149 ₽|
|3||"After Three It's Late," Masaru Ibuku||396 ₽|
|4||"Mother Tigress Fighting Anthem" by Amy Chua||383 ₽|
|5||"A Brief Guide to Parenting Babies," Axel Hake||494 ₽|
|6||"French kids don't spit food," Pamela Druckerman||539 ₽|
|7||Harmful Parents, Susan Forward, Craig Buck||560 ₽|
|8||"Secret support. Attachment in the life of a child", Lyudmila Petranovskaya||376 ₽|
|9||"An independent child, or how to become a" lazy mother "", Anna Bykova||278 ₽|
|10||"Talking with a child. How?", Julia Gippenreiter||396 ₽|
|11||“Brothers and sisters. How to help your children live together,” Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish||358 ₽|
|12||“Before your child drives you crazy,” Nigel Latta||533 ₽|
|13||“Make our children happy,” Madeline Denis||540 ₽|
From Diapers to First Dates, Debra Huffner
Leading the book is Debra Huffner, an American sex education specialist. Few adults are able to start a frank conversation with their child on sensitive issues. But sooner or later one will have to step over constraint and fear, especially at the moment when the child enters a difficult teenage period. First feelings, dates, parties in the company of peers, kisses, belated homecoming - this is alarming and exciting for adults, so they do everything possible so that the children do not get into trouble. True, many choose the wrong methods, trying to set bans and talk from a position of strength. Emerging conflicts push the child to risky acts, including sexual experiments.
Debra Huffner highlights the key points that should first of all interest parents. Explains how to convey information about one's own values related to the manifestation of sexuality so that children want to hear. The author does not ignore the psychophysiological features of development, highlighting three categories: the younger, middle and oldest. Describes in detail how sexuality changes in each of these periods. The topics also include masturbation, harassment, contraception, pregnancy, sexual orientation, etc.
The book is replete with examples taken from practice, as well as personal experience. Suitable for all parents, especially those who raise teens.
“How Children Succeed,” Paul Tuff
The second line goes to the work of Paul Tuff. Readers will see the destruction of the myth that success requires high exam points. The author claims that in this difficult process, personal qualities, character, for example, endurance, perseverance, self-discipline, motivation, determination, ambitiousness, curiosity play a significant role. So that the child can achieve heights in the future, it is recommended to focus on the formation and development of these qualities.
On the pages of the book, the reader gets acquainted with modern educators and researchers using scientific tools to study children's character. For example, numerous stories of children who have now become successful people are given. Tuff explains the relationship of upbringing, which was given, with the results obtained in adulthood. Paul tells what parents can do to prepare the baby for an independent future; parses situations showing who and how to handle this, and who makes mistakes.
The work is full of surnames and numbers of studies, which is very informative. The book makes you think and look at a child’s education from a different angle. Recommended for parents of schoolchildren and those who are just going to first grade.
"After Three It's Late," Masaru Ibuku
The third position is occupied by the work devoted to the upbringing of the baby in the earliest period, from birth to three years. Masaru Ibuka claims that in these years it is necessary to develop as many abilities as possible. The book is written with a minimum amount of water, as readers note in reviews and reviews. The pages contain many practical methods that allow you to intellectually develop a child. The author focuses on the fact that you can not set yourself the task of growing a genius, it is better to approach the process in a playful way, to give the baby a rest and have fun with peers.
The material is divided into blocks, so the information is perceived easily. The presentation is characterized by accessibility and simplicity. There are many examples from life that allow you to focus on the main thing. The book is colorful, filled with funny illustrations, uplifting. It is recommended for reading to anyone who plans to become parents in the near future or have recently become one. Newcomers will be especially interested, but people who want to deeply study the topic will not like it, since the main theses on the surface do not have a full disclosure.
"Mother Tigress Fighting Anthem" by Amy Chua
In fourth place is the work that made a splash in the USA and Europe. A professor at Yale Law School described in a book about her experiences raising daughters. Amy Chua impressed the readers with revelations about the Chinese model of education. The above methods shocked someone, and admired someone. Discussions do not cease to this day.
Amy tells in detail how she raised two of her girls, preparing them for a successful future. She deliberately did everything so that her daughters became musical geniuses. As a Chinese woman who married a Jew and lived in the United States, the woman did not depart from national traditions. Despite the fact that they seem wild, an effective result has been obtained. Amy built her system on several prohibitions, here are some of them: spending the night with friends; inviting friends to yourself; participation in school plays (whining about the ban); watching TV and computer games; independent choice of elective disciplines; grades below fives (applied to all subjects except physical education); refusal to practice music; classes on instruments other than violin and piano.
Readers disagree. Not every mom wants and can become such a “tiger”. We recommend material to be introduced to parents raising children with a musical bias.
"A Brief Guide to Parenting Babies," Axel Hake
The fifth is the book, despite the name is not a guide. The work is full of jokes and short stories, articles, which at one time were published in a German newspaper. They are a story about a family with three young children. The journalist father shares his successes and failures in upbringing, discusses the future, describing various life situations in a humorous form.
The book is useful to all parents, as it provides an opportunity to come up with humor to everything that children sometimes throw out. This is not serious psychological work, but easy reading at your leisure. After acquaintance, you will take a different look at the vagaries, hooliganism, leprosy and resentment, and also learn to exhale so that you can continue the difficult way of education with calm nerves. Axel does not give any advice, does not develop proprietary techniques, but simply talks about his experience, full of both successes and failures.
The main message of the book is parental love. As one quote says, any gentleman who reads the “Brief Guide to Raising Babies” will be comforted, as he will understand that his children are not doing so bad, because others have exactly the same thing. Suitable not only for parents, but also for teenagers still remembering their restless childhood.
"French kids don't spit food," Pamela Druckerman
The sixth line is given to the bestseller, which tells that the baby should live naturally at every age stage, without any outside interference. Pamela lived for many years in France, so she managed to study the traditions of education, combining gentleness and rigor, freedom and prohibitions. All her books are becoming popular and loved among parents.
The book tells how the French manage to bring up happy, obedient and polite children, without sacrificing their own lives. They don’t spend midnight near the baby’s bed in an attempt to rock it, babies don’t scandal in stores, don’t interfere in adult conversations, calmly accept refusals, eat adult dishes and behave in restaurants in a well-mannered manner. The author insists that social life, career and appearance should not fade into the background after the appearance of a child in the family. This is shown by the example of French women who always manage to remain fashionable, sexy and active.
The work is written with humor, so it will give not only practical advice, but also entertain at your leisure. The book is recommended to a wide readership.
Harmful Parents, Susan Forward, Craig Buck
The seventh position is occupied by a deep psychological book from two authors. The main message of the work is that parents should not be allowed to misbehave, causing serious harm to the children's psyche. Yes, they are also people who can be mistaken, but the deliberate manipulation of authority, guilt and other things kills the baby’s self-esteem, his self-confidence and his strength.
The material talks about how to work with victims of any violence (psychological, sexual, emotional), as well as with parents who consciously or not practice such behavior in relation to their children. The book helps adults understand how to behave properly without showing abuse. Often, such parents themselves were victims in the family, so it is not possible to get away from the prevailing stereotypes. Sadly, many who grew up in alcoholic families and decided that they would never repeat such a fate sooner or later returned to a vicious circle, for example, choosing a partner with similar problems. This book also has a lot of information on the sensitive topic of incest: it tells about how to start the diagnosis and therapy, and also gives exercises that are performed independently and with a specialist. The work of Susan and Craig gives understanding that the child has the right not only to physical, but also to emotional protection, where personal boundaries, feelings, opinions, and personal dignity are respected.
It is recommended for reading to all future and current parents, as well as people who want to deal with the pain caused in childhood.
"Secret support. Attachment in the life of a child", Lyudmila Petranovskaya
In eighth place is the work of a famous psychologist, Lyudmila Petranovskaya. She has written several works, including articles on growing up. This is not only about growing up the baby, but also about all of us who survived the shake-up. Post-Soviet upbringing, collective trauma received and experienced so far. Being at the junction of two worlds, it is already impermissible to blindly follow the rules instilled in us from childhood.
The book is considered basic at Petranovskaya, therefore, is required to read. Here we will talk about difficult children and finding an approach to them, about the inextricable connection of adults and infants, about affection. Lyudmila says that it is necessary to build mutual love, but in such a way that in the future it does not become a heavy burden and burden. Only mutual understanding will provide the simplest communication with the child. The book contains answers to the most popular and difficult questions: should teenagers be given freedom? Should I send my child to kindergarten? etc.
The work is written in an accessible language, and convenient division into chapters by age allows you to quickly navigate. It is recommended for reading to all parents, teachers, psychologists, as well as people who want to reconsider relationships with older children.
"An independent child, or how to become a" lazy mother "", Anna Bykova
The ninth becomes the work of Bykova Anna, who once posted her article entitled "Why am I a Lazy Mom" on one of the sites. It talked about why hyperprotection is harmful, why give the baby more independence. The article immediately attracted attention, after which it was decided to make a whole book on this topic. Later Bykova released a number of books.
The advice of the author will guide moms on the right path, allowing a sober assessment of their approach to education. Anna explains that the desire to always be irreplaceable and unique for a child is the path to nowhere. Numerous reviews and reviews emphasize that the book is written in a simple language for ordinary people, so anyone who does not even understand psychology will be able to bring out useful things for themselves. A large number of practical examples will clearly demonstrate what the psychologist is talking about.
The book answers a variety of questions: how to teach a pot? to teach the baby to fall asleep on his own in the crib? to instill accuracy so that the child himself removed the toys? other. Suitable for a wide readership.
"Talking with a child. How?", Julia Gippenreiter
The tenth line is given to the work of Hippenreiter, whose books have become bestsellers for ten years now. The author teaches to communicate with the child correctly, paying attention even to trifles, for example, in passing thrown phrases like “Oh, who do you look like?”, “What did you think!” etc. The psychologist gives a clear explanation of why such words are dangerous and how children perceive them, that they bring humiliation and depreciation of problems. Julia offers a unique technique that will help parents to establish communication with the child at any age.
Even if the baby is surrounded by care and care, without proper communication, he is fully simply unable to develop. Over time, this will certainly affect his behavior, after which mom and dad, throwing up their hands, will say that he has become naughty and unbearable. In fact, the whole root is that adults did not establish the right relationship on time, because the result obtained is only their work. The book helps to develop a healthy communication style that will safely affect the future of the child.
The work of a psychologist for many readers is a guide to education. It is better to get to know him at the very early stage, when the baby is very small or not yet born, but even if you just found out about the book, we still recommend buying it. It will help families where there are problems with older children, even if they are already teenagers.
“Brothers and sisters. How to help your children live together,” Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish
The eleventh position is occupied by the work of Faber and Mazlish, who talks about the correct construction of the relationship between brothers and sisters.After the success of the previous book, psychologists were inundated with requests to do a separate work on this issue, since parents do not know how to protect children from quarrels, rivalry and jealousy so that no one feels left out.
A book written in an accessible language will first of all explain how to teach kids to express negativity so as not to hurt the environment; Avoid enmity and compromise themselves; to be an individual without comparing yourself to anyone. Although the work does not carry revolutionary methods, but repeats simple truths, for many it has become a lifesaver, according to reviews. Clearly presented material, both in text and in the form of illustrations, reminds mothers and fathers what mistakes cannot be made in order to maintain peace between brothers and sisters.
Not everyone will like the book, as it has a slight Western bias, but the essence and basic ideas are applicable in our country. Suitable for parents with two or more children.
“Before your child drives you crazy,” Nigel Latta
In twelfth place is the book of a practicing psychologist, which tells how to learn to understand your child; accustom him to restraint, without depriving him of carelessness. The work is full of tips that will help already desperate parents, tired of the vagaries and disobedience. Here, the stages of development of preschool children are affected, and also recommendations are given that help to develop the right attitude to any behavior on the part of the baby.
Nigel presents the material with humor, but in a structured way, so that the reader will not miss the point. The author does not address questions about feelings between the parent and the child, but gives practical advice on how to act in a particular situation, most often a dead end. The proposed methods may seem tough and inhumane, but this is not so. Raising a capricious, sometimes uncontrollable child is an extremely difficult task, requiring a special approach. There are no physical sentences in the book, but ignoring bad behavior and encouraging good.
Suitable work for mothers and fathers of unbalanced, spoiled and aggressive children. Remember that each child requires an individual approach, therefore it is impossible to use all methods without correlating them with a person.
“Make our children happy,” Madeline Denis
Closing the rating is a series of books that includes five works, having familiarized with which, you will be able to grow a happy person. It is recommended for reading to all parents, especially those who are just planning to have children.
"Your child’s dream" will tell parents how to teach your baby to fall asleep independently; will tell you how to overcome a child’s nightly fears. A lot of tips and tricks will allow you to not sit for a long time near the crib every night. "Vagaries and tantrums" tells about effective methods that allow parents to figure out where the anger comes from and how to cope with it. This is an analysis of situations that occur most often. Different age periods were taken, so at the right time you will already be prepared and will be able to react correctly. "Preschoolers. 3-6 years old" is a joint project of Clever Publishing House and the journal Psychologies, helping parents better understand children's behavior and direct their child, setting tasks appropriate for age. "Primary school. 6-10 years" - the continuation of the project. On the pages of psychologists share their views on the practical side of education. "Teens. 11-16 years old" - the end of the family project. The book helps to establish a dialogue with a teenage child, overcome alienation, avoid aggression and resentment, and also take adulthood as a natural factor.
Attention! This rating is subjective, is not an advertisement and does not serve as a guide to the purchase. Before buying, you need to consult with a specialist.